2017 marks the 50th Anniversary of the U.S. Supreme Court’s decision to invalidate laws prohibiting interracial marriage. Here’s to celebrating the quirks of intercultural dating.
Cover photo courtesy of Jon Taylor Sweet
Before you hate me for implementing a clickable title based on a movie I haven’t seen and book I haven’t read, bear with me:
I have the Sparknotes storyline and it’s a love-hate relationship between pleasure and torture.
That’s just what dating a citizen of another country is like, or even someone who is from a culture or racial group profiled as very different from your own.
If you’re fallen for someone that you don’t look related to, you’ve probably been through one or two of these awkward / awesome moments:
1. Being told how beautiful your hypothetical mixed babies would be.
2. Having no idea what they just said.
3. Knowing you’ll never be mistaken as brother and sister.
4. Encounters with family members or friends you can’t speak with because they don’t speak the same language.
5. Saying something in your native language and feeling sexy.
6. Hearing something in their native language and it being sexy.
7. Accents in general.
8. Expressing affection in different ways.
9. Using “culture” as a crutch to letting them get away with behavior you don’t agree with.
10. Being referred to as “The American,” “The German,” or “The Aussie,” instead of as “the xyz.”
11. Wondering if they’d move for you.
12. Wondering if you’d move for them.
13. Trying to learn basic phrases in their language.
14. Painfully chopping up those phrases. And laughing about it.
15. Ceasing jokes about bad grammar.
16. Appreciating people who are bilingual.
17. Your significant other not getting references or jokes about childhood experiences, TV shows, pop artists, and etc. exclusive to your culture.
18. Eating new things.
19. Trying to cook new things.